How do you measure success in your life? There are many ways – we can measure success by job titles, promotions, houses, cars, clothes, children, partners, the list goes on. I think that rather than these ways of measuring success being wrong, they are a bit lop-sided. After all these things or people aren’t me but they may say something about me. There’s a slight difference there. My point is that rather than the promotion or partner being a trophy in themselves, they can help reflect that I am indeed in a good place with myself. My belief is that if I’m in a good place with myself, everything else will fall into place. If I’m being true to myself, and constantly striving towards becoming a better person, then I’ll enable or allow other good things to happen in my life.
I do take account of the blips that are the lessons in life – if I hadn’t ever had any blips, how could I then look back and see what I’d learned? I’ve had my fair share – and I’ve come to appreciate and value them. I also endeavour to not have the same blip over again, but rather new and novel blips. They mark my life’s low points in some ways, but in others the start of new beginnings. That’s like being given a new chance, a fresh start with more experience, and can be a wonderful opportunity.
So how do I measure success? I’ve given this a lot of thought, and I think I’m arriving at the conclusion that it’s related to watching the clouds. When I’m watching the clouds, I’m usually sitting in my favourite chair with a cup of tea. I’m comfortable, calm, centred, peaceful. When I’m watching the clouds I’ve got the self-awareness to have taken a break from my busy schedule. I’ve got enough energy to drift with the moment and let my thoughts ramble. When I’m watching the clouds I could be anywhere, anytime, anyone. It’s when I’m at my most fluid, most in touch with my inner strengths, experiences, emotions, roots – with the very essence of what is I. This essence is part me the individual and part everywoman. When I’m watching the clouds I relish this essence coming to the fore. I’m in a good place with me. I just am. To me, this is success.
In my experience, success has nothing to do with money, status symbols or the kind of people I hang with – it’s got to do with how I am with me and the Universe. It’s free and available anywhere. I have experienced it when I have been healthy and ill, in work and out of work, broke and with money to spare. Recognising that this is what success means to me is also helps me to see others better. I don’t focus on their material status, or the status symbols around them, but on them. I’m better able to see people for who they are instead of how they dress, or for their economic status. It’s a great feeling to be able to tap into this good place of being at any time.
I’d love to hear about your experiences with cloud-watching or any other activity that works for you. Blessed be!
Finding the community of Cycle Harmony has made a huge difference to me. I am delighted to be writing to you from the Red Tent and hope to share thoughts and experiences you recognise, or find useful to ponder upon. I look forward to working with you all in exploring what it is to be women, and hope to hear from you. ~ Vild
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